Recently my wife and I had the rare opportunity to spend a night away from our children. One of the great things we did was saw a movie together. Through some negotiating and compromise we agreed on Crazy, Stupid, Love. We both really liked this movie. It was an all star cast and the story line probed the depths of human desire to be connected to each other. (This is a spoiler alert!)
In tying up the story line between Jessica (who is a high school senior) and Robbie (who is in the 8th grade) there is scene at the end of the movie that is the reason for this blog post. Jessica hands Robbie naked photos of herself and says something to the effect of, “This will get you through high school.”
Because it was the end of the move and the way the music was playing it was obvious that the viewer is supposed to be endeared by this act of naked picture sharing. What passes for endearing is great indicator of what society has deemed socially acceptable.
This made me want to reflect and research the common use of sexting between adolescents. For those of you who don’t know sexting is texting naked photos of yourself.
Here is what I have found. I got this quote from Psychology Today:
One survey suggests, 1 in 5 teens admitted to posting sexually explicit pictures on-line. To help understand teen sexting behaviors,” The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy and CosmoGirl .com conducted a survey with 653 teens (ages 13-19) to explore the sexual use of sending or posting sexually suggestive messages or texts. Some of their findings are listed below:
Teens who say they have sent or posted a sexually revealing photo or video:
- 20% of all teens
- 22% of teen girls
- 18% of teen boys
Teens that have sent sexually suggestive messages:
- 39% of all teens
- 37% of teen girls
- 40% of teen boys
- 48% admit to receiving suggestive messages
You see, there’s a special part of the brain called the prefrontal cortex (aka the CEO of the brain) that is responsible for problem solving, impulse control, and weighing out options. Unfortunately for teens, this area of the brain is not fully developed. In fact, it doesn’t fully mature until the early to mid twenties. So, while we expect our teens to know better, the fact is there’s some physiological reasons teens think they’re invincible.