Great Expectations

2015 was not the best year for me.  Major life changes disrupted the norms of daily connectivity.  Relationships changed.  Life Changed.  I am beginning to truly understanding, deep within my bones, that my life is not turning out like I expected it to. Maybe I’m not in control like I thought I could be?

So, now that life is not turning out like I thought, what do I do now?  My first goal of the new year is to try and be present to God, myself. and my children. Not necessarily in the particular order. I’m going to work on mindfulness.  So, how does that work?  I’ll let you know at the end of the year.  But the first is trying not to plan too much or to worry about the future.

I’m starting to have some more time on my hands only having my children half-time, so I thought that I might pick up blogging again. We’ll see if this lasts.

I do like to take something on for the New Year. Something fun.  This year I have decided that I want to take on making a few cocktails. The first will be an Old Fashioned. I think I’ll also make a Martini, Gin & Tonic, and a Manhattan. We’ll see how it goes.

All of that to say, I still have hope, faith, and believe in love. I am hope full about the future. I have great expectations about what life will bring.

Cheers,

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I Kicked Jesus Out Of Church

So, I kicked Jesus out of church a few Sundays ago. He was in the form of a woman begging at the door of the church. We don’t often get beggars in the front of our church. He was also in the form of the 4 year-old child next to the woman. Jesus spoke with what I think was a Russian accent and was probably in her 30s. Jesus held a sign that asked for food, money, or a job.

I felt uncomfortable because the congregation shouldn’t be bothered by this woman on a Sunday morning. Didn’t she know that we support all kinds of ministries that help people like her? Didn’t she know that we help the Contra Costa Food Bank? I told her that she couldn’t beg in front of this church. When she said she was hungry I told her to come to worship and come back later during our coffee hour. I then remembered that we have a bin full of food for the food bank. I told her to wait and I would get some food for her. But, I think that I scared Jesus off, because when I came back with food and she was gone. I felt horrible. Jesus, please forgive me for kicking you out of church. I hope you come back.

Truly I tell you, whatever you did to one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did to me. –Matthew 25:40

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Worship Music And Knowing Your Audience

The first time I ventured out of a Roman Catholic church was when I decided to go to a large baptist church right outside of my house.  I remember that the high school age kids had their own worship service aside from the adults.  There were probably 100 kids in the service. I’ll never forget what happened when the pastor took the stage and said, “Let’s begin with prayer.” I, being a Catholic, knew that when you prayed you stood. So, when the pastor invited us to pray I stood up and bowed my head. It took me a second to realize that I, in fact, was the only person standing. Everyone else had their head bowed and eyes closed. I don’t think they saw me, thank God!

I was reminded of this misstep in worship this week during the ELCA National Youth Gathering in Detroit. It seems to me that most of the kids don’t understand contemporary worship because their churches don’t really do it. So, it becomes a semi awkward rock concert.

There was this point during some of the singing that one of the leaders was prompting the kids to just sing praises to Jesus.  She began impromptu singing. I recognized this from my days as an Evangelical.  I remember being led in this during my time in San Diego. Everyone would just start singing a song that welled up in their hearts. I would bet that most of the kids have never experienced this before. So, when she was prompting them, no one did anything.

I don’t want to judge the merits of doing worship that way. I have obviously cast my lot elsewhere.  I do think that it was out of place and made me feel a little awkward. I wonder if there is a way for the music leaders at the gathering to better understand their audience?

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Photographers in the Hospital

This last week I was reminded that there is a professional photographer in the hospital who takes pictures of new born babies. You have the option of paying for a variety of packages and you even get to see a slide who of you and your baby. They will tell the new mother that if they don’t buy within the hospital stay that they will pay 10% more.

I am very uncomfortable with baby photographers in the hospital.

A woman who has just had a pretty intense, even traumatic, experience to her body is now forced to make decisions about whether to photograph her baby and then asked to pony up money for the pictures. Sure, this can be seen as providing a service to the parent, but it seems a little like funeral directors up selling by playing on the emotions of grieving families. I find the whole thing to be a little manipulative.

What do you think?

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Giving the Benefit of the Doubt

“We are to fear and love God, so that we do not tell lies about our neighbors, betray or slander them, or destroy their reputations. Instead we are to come to their defense, speak well of them, and interpret everything they do in the best possible light.” -M. Luther, The Small Catechism

It is in our nature to try and make sense out of the interactions we have with people. We gauge all sorts of ques, trying to interpret things like words and body language.  We then attach significance to these interactions, sometimes doing this well or maybe not so well.  In particular, I have been thinking a lot about giving others the benefit of the doubt. I have been thinking about this a lot because I  have been quit sensitive to people jumping to conclusions.

I have been dealing with this sensitivity by asking people questions when I feel like they might be not giving the other the benefit of the doubt. I will ask them, “How do you know this?  Have you talked about this with that person? Did you ask why they did (or said) what they did?”

This line of questioning will often go in one of two directions. The first, in my opinion, is hubris. The person assumes that they can trust their interpretation without allowing me to question it.  This person usually doesn’t like the questions asked. They dismiss me fairly quickly and continue with their own line of thought. I think they have too much self confidence, and I might be convinced that I am not giving them the benefit of the doubt. The second response is openness.  The person will ask more questions, maybe starts to see that they might have assumed too much.  Maybe they will back down from their unwarranted judgements.  Sometimes, they will provide more information as to why they feel what they are saying is a good interpretation of what happened.

So I wonder, how do you respond when you notice someone not giving another the benefit of the doubt?

 

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Submitting a higher belt

The way I see it

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How I feel when I can’t pass someone’s guard

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February 14, 2014 · 11:35 pm

Our Table is a Place of Peace

Boys will naturally turn anything into a weapon. Enrique and I knew that this occur naturally and thought that we were not really going to be buying guns or weapons for them.  This of course turned out to not be the case.  They now have arsenals that would make most militias proud.

Well, our two boys have great imaginations and like to play  fight/fight…most of the day.  They will take their Nerf swords and Nerf guns and chase each other through the house.  They will put themselves in wrestling moves that defy physics. They are just active little guys.

I have only one rule about their fighting and horseplay. No weapons on or around the table. I believe our table is a place of peace and hospitality. All are welcome there. When we sit a the table it shall be a place of peace and safety.  No one is to strike another.  Sometimes one will try to keep a gun on their lap and I make them put it on the couch.  I say, “No weapons at the table. Our table is a place of peace.”

I hope that our ideas of an open table extends to other parts of their life. I hope that they grow up with a deeper understanding of our table being a place of peace.

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New Years Resolution 2014

1. Brazilian Jui Jitsu -because I love it and it challenges me both mentally and physically.

2. Learn about Whiskey and sample widely.

Do you have any?

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Book I Read in 2013

My Bright Abyss: Meditation of a Modern BelieverKnowing Christ Today: Why We Can Trust Spiritual KnowledgeInsurrection: To Believe Is Human To Doubt, DivineEmerging Prophet: Kierkegaard and the Postmodern People of God
The Skeptical Believer: Telling Stories to Your Inner AtheistChristology and ScienceThe Fidelity of Betrayal: Towards a Church Beyond BeliefThe Idolatry of God: Breaking Our Addiction to Certainty and Satisfaction
Unbinding the Gospel: Real Life EvangelismThe Open SecretHolding Your Family Together: 5 Simple Steps to Help Bring Your Family Closer to God and Each OtherAnatheism: Returning to God After God
The Battle of Corrin (Legends of Dune, #3)The Machine Crusade (Legends of Dune, #2)Missional Church: A Vision for the Sending of the Church in North America (Gospel & Our Culture)The Fault in Our Stars
To Live as Francis Lived: A Guide For Secular FranciscansA Year of Biblical WomanhoodThe Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and BusinessWhen "Spiritual but Not Religious" Is Not Enough: Seeing God in Surprising Places, Even the Church
The Predicament of Belief: Science, Philosophy, and FaithThe Bible, Christianity, & HomosexualityI Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't): Making the Journey from "What Will People Think?" to "I Am Enough"The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
Life Together: The Classic Exploration of Faith in CommunityPastrix: The Cranky, Beautiful Faith of a Sinner & Saint

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